Unless you are sleeping under a rock in the Himalayas somewhere, I'm sure you know that yesterday was Father's Day. And if you didn't, I am sure you figured it out pretty quickly from all of your Facebook newsfeeds.
In typical Brian fashion, he made all of his plans and bought his own gifts. I must admit though, that this year he did a pretty great job.
I was however able to surprise him with one gift. On the eve of this epic day, after Chase went to bed and before B himself went to bed, I conspicuously changed Chase's shirt. I put a rockstar "I love Dad," shirt on. which if you've been reading for a while, you understand.
The following morning, we decided to go to the early service at church so that we could head out to grab lunch before the baseball game. One of my favorite pastimes is finding hip, little places to eat. Give me off the beaten path, options for both B and I (i.e. vegan and burgers:) with a cool environment and I am sold. A helpful new to me app that I absolutely love is urbanspoon. This helps so much and I can search on it for hours...good times, folks..good times. I found an absolutely yummy place to eat that satisfied us both. The name was Tap and Tapas and it was located in downtown Nash.
Brian was hesitant but trusted my plan. He looked relieved when he saw burgers on the sign outside. He had a stuffed burger with an fried egg on top and I had a portobello mushroom "burger" with fried eggplant straws. The food was excellent and it was the perfect place to chill before the game.
Once we arrived to the game, it was pretty hot. Chase was super excited to get onto the field AFTER the game, so I prepared myself to stay for all 10 innings. Luckily, the stands weren't too full and I could get all country and prop my boot over the seat in front of me...you think there is no leg room on airplanes...I could barely fit my legs in front of me!
We must be a lucky charm to the Sounds because they broke a losing streak and won the game. Chase absolutely loved yelling for each hit and sighing for each miss. It was quite adorable. And quite annoying for a grumpy, older lady in front of us:)
After the game, we proceeded to the field for father/son pitch. It was great watching B and C pitch and hit. Brian grew up going to these games with his dad and it was very special for him to not only go on this day but to continue on with this important tradition.
After we left the field, we were all pretty sweaty and beat. By the time we got into the car and started the AC, Chase was out in five minutes. That to us meant a pretty successful day. It really was one of the best days for dads that we've ever had.
So what were your plans for Father's Day? Any special memories with your dad?
On allpointswhole, this is a topic we've discussed before. I've shared my own struggle with eating disorders..mine not as devastating as others but unhealthy nonetheless. It resembled more of a constant cycle of dieting and thus my weight fluctuating. I vividly remember start my first of many diets in the fifth grade. Although, I was only nine years old, I had a very poor self image and the little"baby fat" I carried seemed much more blown up in my mind than it actually appeared.
The older I've gotten, I've realized that most women are plagued with this form of a eating disorder. Society tells us we are only attractive and worthy, if we are, as Sir-Mix-a-lot once sang, 24-36-24. And even though he was just a one hit wonder, we sing along and attempt to live up to a standard that only those born with perfect genetics can live up to.
Recently, I joined the online community of Myfitnesspal. I absolutely love this site and it has aided in my attempts to lose weight that I put on during my multiple injuries from 2010-2011. It helps you stay accountable and offers encouragement through online "friendships." It really is such an eye opener and helps inspire you to make better choices.
Through some recent friend requests, I've noticed a disturbing trend, particularly with younger girls, They seem to be using the site to calorie restrict to very unhealthy numbers. I was shocked to see girls posting about binging, purging, and starving themselves. They don't talk about it as a struggle but rather boast about it! They encourage one another and give suggestions as to how they can deceive their peers and or parents to believe they are eating when they are in fact, not. One suggestion I read today stated "go into the kitchen and fiddle around, closing drawers, etc. Then when dinner time arrives and you tell your parents that you are not hungry, it will be more believable"
This has been burdening me for sometime and quite frankly I don't know what the solution is. I am a "fixer" by nature and am racking my brain as to how I can make a difference in this epidemic. Other than looking for new outlets to mentor teen girls, I've decided to shed light onto it by exposing it on this blog. I've also left comments on the girls' pages encouraging them that they are beautiful just the way they are..to please not purge, get help, etc I've received no replies...but I also have not been defriended. I've added a few more that I've seen comment on others in an attempt to try and impact them as much as possible.
This saddens me so much and makes my heart so heavy. Writing about it helps me collect my thoughts and hopefully inspires readers to address this issue on their blogs or with anyone they know suffering from this disease. If you happen to be experiencing or engaging in this behavior yourself, please find someone you can trust and take the leap of being vulnerable. It is so scary and uncomfortable to share your shortcomings, but it is oh so worth it. Ultimately, you are destroying yourself. And once you figure out why you are wanting to inflict that pain on yourself, you will be one step closer to healing and freedom. Sometimes just sharing with someone takes such a burden off of your shoulders and gives you such a release.
I want to continue to bring this issue to light, but for now I want to hear from you. Have you or anyone you know experienced an eating disorder? If you received help, what was it and how did it help you? Any ideas on how we can make a difference?
General meditations on life and balance.